So this theory was one i heard while in Law School. My friend had recently split with her boyfriend but was still dating him. Sort of.
One day when i saw her crying, we spoke about it and she put it a bit more crudely- "To get over your ex, get under the next" and she assured me she would be fine once she met someone new.
I never really processed that laughing it off as things we say when broken.
I did know though that when i was heartbroken, a compliment from someone new always cheered me up. But then i am a leo- easily pleased.
Fast track a few years later.
I fell in love, and then it ended and i, like humpty dumpty, never really got back together again.
I was truly done with love and had considered getting a cat or nine. While i knew in theory that i was over my ex and did not want to be with him any longer, i still hurt, especially when i heard his name.
It got better, like Leona Lewis assures, in time.
But then i met Mr C
Mr C got me off guard; i had not gone out that night expecting to 'pull'. I thought i would go out, come home and sleep. But i went out and met Mr C and felt such a huge attraction to him that it is no surprise we started dating.
And just as my friend predicted. Meeting someone and falling (in intense like?) made me so strong that now, you can even mention my ex's full name and i wouldn't flinch.
So wait. Does that mean that if you do not fall in love with someone new you cannot get rid of someone old?
My people, talk to me!