You can't get over your ex till you meet the next...

Hey all.
So this theory was one i heard while in Law School. My friend had recently split with her boyfriend but was still dating him. Sort of.
One day when i saw her crying, we spoke about it and she put it a bit more crudely- "To get over your ex, get under the next" and she assured me she would be fine once she met someone new.

I never really processed that laughing it off as things we say when broken.

I did know though that when i was heartbroken, a compliment from someone new always cheered me up. But then i am a leo- easily pleased.

Fast track a few years later.

I fell in love, and then it ended and i, like humpty dumpty, never really got back together again.
I was truly done with love and had considered getting a cat or nine. While i knew in theory that i was over my ex and did not want to be with him any longer, i still hurt, especially when i heard his name.
It got better, like Leona Lewis assures, in time.

But then i met Mr C

Mr C got me off guard; i had not gone out that night expecting to 'pull'. I thought i would go out, come home and sleep. But i went out and met Mr C and felt such a huge attraction to him that it is no surprise we started dating.

And just as my friend predicted. Meeting someone and falling (in intense like?) made me so strong that now, you can even mention my ex's full name and i wouldn't flinch.

So wait. Does that mean that if you do not fall in love with someone new you cannot get rid of someone old?

My people, talk to me!

That's a lie

You broke my heart
I hope you are happy
That's a lie

I hope you are sad
I hope your heart is broken too

I hope you miss me
I hope you wonder if you made a mistake

I hope you want me back
I hope you need me now

I hope you cry too
I hope you hurt too

Where does love come from

They didn't teach you how to love. Poor thing. You were not born with the whys and the whos and the whys of love embedded in you. So you had to learn it. From the first people you met and knew. From how they said it, showed it, felt it, believed it, taught it.
You learnt to hug or push away, to be free or be guarded, to deceive or be open, to give or to take, or to hoard it.

We did not come with a manual, so we learn it from those who birth us, keep us, teach us, feed us, 'love' us. Some of us do exactly what we saw. We see love as a battlefield and a fight we have to win, a game we have to play, a treat we have to keep. Some of us love freely and get stung. Some of us never fully decide who we are and what love means. We just walk around aimlessly searching for love, and sometimes, searching more for what love means than what love is.

Love is love. But what IS love? And who will ever show me what it means?

Music to Real Life... Part 2

So, the second song was one i randomly played on the show today.
While i am not as torn up as Natalie Imbruglia is, i do think it speaks a bit to how i feel today!
Thank you music!


NATALIE IMBRUGLIA LYRICS
"Torn"

I thought, I saw a man brought to life
He was warm, he came around and he was dignified
He showed me what it was to cry

Well, you couldn't be that man I adored
You don't seem to know
Seem to care what your heart is for
But I don't know him anymore

There's nothing where he used to lie
The conversation has run dry
That's what's going on
Nothing's fine, I'm torn

I'm all out of faith
This is how I feel
I'm cold and I am shamed
Lying naked on the floor

Illusion never changed
Into something real
I'm wide awake and I can see
The perfect sky is torn
You're a little late, I'm already torn

It crawled beneath my veins
And now I don't care, I had no luck
I don't miss it all that much
There's just so many things
That I can touch, I'm torn

I'm all out of faith
This is how I feel
I'm cold and I am shamed
Lying naked on the floor

Illusion never changed
Into something real
I'm wide awake and I can see
The perfect sky is torn
You're a little late, I'm already torn, torn

There's nothing where he used to lie
My inspiration has run dry
That's what's going on
Nothing's right, I'm torn

I'm all out of faith
This is how I feel
I'm cold and I am shamed
Lying naked on this floor

Illusion never changed
Into something real
I'm wide awake and I can see
The perfect sky is torn

I'm all out of faith
This is how I feel
I'm cold and I'm ashamed
Bound and broken on the floor
You're a little late, I'm already torn, torn

From MUSIC to REAL LIFE... Music heals it all... Part 1

Hey yo!

Ever noticed how no matter what you are going through, somehow there is someone who has gone through it and you have the evidence because they sang a song about it?

Yeah me too.
So today ii have not one, but two songs .

Let us start with how crappy i have been feeling lately. Just really crappy. Like i am losing it. So to make it worse, my darling team, Manchester United has been breaking my heart lately.
It's tough to explain but when it rains it pours.

So this morning, i remembered a song i once played when Liverpool beat us by five goals. And as i paraphrased the lyrics for my Man U fans, i realised just how much they could do for anyone going through stuff.

So here we go
My paraphrased version of T.I's "No Matter What"

Yeah, yeah, yeah, aye
Yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo
I say still I stand, aye
And shawty here I am

Neva have ya seen in ya lifetime
A more divine human being
Wit a swag like mine
Facin all kind of bs
But smile like Im fine
Brag with such passion
And shine without trying

Believe me, pain's a small thing to a giant
I was born without a handbook
Out tha pain I climbed
Spoke my mind
And didnt stutter one time
Ali say even the greatest
Gotta suffer some time

I aint dead
(Naw)
I aint done
(Naw)
I aint scared
(Of what?)
I aint run
(From who?)

But still I stand
(Yeah)
No matter what people
Here I am
(Yeah)
No matter what, remember

I aint break
(Neva)
I aint fold
(Neva)
They hate me mo
(So!)
Yeah I know
(Haha)

Here I go
(Yeah)
No matter what shawty, here I go
(Haha)
No matter what shawty

God'll take you through hell just to get you to heaven
So even though its heavy, the load I will carry
Grin and still bear it
Win and still share it
Apologies to those i hurt, I hope you can understand it
Life can change ya directions
Even when you aint planned it

All you can do is handle it
The worst thing you could do is panic
Use it to your advantage
Avoid insanity, manage to conquer
Every obstacle, make impossible possible
Even when winning's illogical
Losing's still far from optional
I weather whateva storm
Make it out with just a few bruises
But revenge is best served as a cold dish
And suckas will get served nigga, no shit
Guess it was understood, for me it was over with
But I dont quit if ya aint notice yet
They couldnt wait to say good night shawty
So they can try to rhyme, act and look like shawty
Somehow I rise above my problems and remain here
Yeah and I hope the picture painted clear
If ya heart filled with faith then ya cant fear
Wonder how I face years and Im still chillin?
Easy, let go and let God deal wit it


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